.....let's recap. We just got done eating MEXICAN.....what comes next.... the part where I use those fancy kegal muscles and have two babies...
so.
blurry, I know, but it's the best shot I have of my attempt to make my gown more attractive.
We go to the hospital and check in (I've never been a patient in a hospital before so I'm kind of excited, because when I got my tour it looked really fun, you know, like a mini vacation. So I'm pretty giddy arriving at my room and finding a place for all of my belongings (which I never used, or wore). It's probably around 8 o clock on Tuesday night and I am set. I sign some paperwork, get my hospital gown on (I didn't know those were real, I always just assumed that was for movies, but ya, not so cute), get my bed all set up, get an IV in (which was horrible) and then it's time for them to start that first medication (forget what it's called) that will help with thinning (effacement) and prepare my body for induction and dilation. They get that hooked up at around 9 PM and we are off. They just came in every hour or so to check and see if your cervix has moved or thinned. Well, my mom and Ty were both in the room with me, the meds weren't hurting, and I was having so much fun. Unfortunately, they were tired and ended our sleepover earlier than I wanted (and I'm the patient-aren't people supposed to do what I want?!). They go to bed, and I basically got NO sleep whatsoever, because every time I dozed off, some lady came in to violate my sleep with her hour check-ups. Sleep was fleeting that night, but I was excited to get the show on the road. The plan originally was to administer the Pitocin at 5AM, Wednesday, as to start dilation, assuming that the night before the medication worked well enough for my cervix to thin and drop (my Dr was leaving on vacation on Thursday, so I basically needed to have the twins Wed.) Well, that night, as I said, I hardly got any sleep between the horrible pain and the check-ups, when they came to check up on me in the morning, I was still along ways off from being ready to start the next medication.
After more, no sleep, and some jello (another great option for avoiding my fear-not), I was finally ready enough to move along into the next step. Pitocin. It was 10AM when they start and basically this medication is really horrible and because it's making your body start dilation, it brings on all those mandatory contractions. IT WAS MISERABLE. I couldn't even lay still for very long and as they tell you with normal, natural contractions, they say, oh, every 5 min. then a few minutes break, and then the closer you get to birth, the longer the contractions last, and the less amount of rest time in between...well, I literally just had one huge contraction. I felt like it never went away and it just stayed there....ripping me apart from the inside. I went from 0 to 100 pretty quick, and the worst part was, the Pitocin wasn't doing anything for my body, so they had to up my dosage. Let's just restate, this was miserable.
after hours of complaining and moaning, they come in to see if I'm wanting an epidural. Well, I was sure that I wanted a natural (well, as natural as it can be, being induced) birth, so I just say no. Well my mom chimes in and reminds me that I'm only dilated to a 2 and if I'm already in that much pain, that it's just going to get A LOT worse. I tell her that I'll probably end up getting one then, but that I'm just not ready. (Another fact about me- I hate needles. I hate them. I hate shots. In a post long ago, I told the story of my first ever shot in the butt during a doctor visit...and well, let's just say I cried, and jumped, and they all laughed at me.) I made the mistake of watching a 5 minute educational video on epidurals. Basically I have no idea what I watched, I just know that the needle was massive and I was scared.
Well, after all this back and forth of nurses asking whether I want an epidural and me pretending like I was going to tough it out...my mom reasoned with me and said, if you're going to end up getting the epidural anyways, why not just get it now, so that you're not miserable...like, DUH. What's the point? Mom's are so smart. I give in and immediately start freaking out. This doctor comes in with an intern-like guy and informs me that this not-a-legitimate-doctor-yet guy will be the one to give me the shot... comforting right... well I waited for it, I held my breathe, asked a lot of stupid questions, and when I asked when they were going to do it, they said that they had already done it and I was all set to go..... ARE YOU KIDDING ME. EPIDURALS ARE THE BEST! After that, I was happy. Suddenly I was able to focus on all the good things about my fun vacation hospital stay.
Well, at this point, we are coming on to about 5:30 PM and I'm dilated to a 3. Yup, it was depressing. My doctor gets off his day job and heads over to the hospital. They decide that they are going to break my water manually-yes this is a thing. Basically it's just like a really hard to reach water balloon. Apparently this was the magic trick because my body kicked into baby-outing mode and I started to dilate pretty rapidly.
Fast forward to 9PM. I am dilated to a 9 and we are ready to start pushing. They let me know that we are going to start in the hospital room, and then when I am really close to delivering, they will move me into the operating room (normal procedure for twin births). This is fine by me... anything is fine by me. I just want my babies out, happy, and healthy.
So, I push.....
and I push.
And my head starts to feel like it's going to explode.
and I push.
Ty is holding one leg back and my mom on the other. Both of them were NOT allowed to look. I wasn't even allowed to look. They offered that mirror.....HELL NO WAS I GOING TO WATCH....especially if I was going to poop. Nope. no way Jose. No mirror for me.
well, I'm still pushing. and Ty and my mom are just looking at me awkwardly because if they even tried to move or flinch I got really mad! haha
I started getting really light-headed after about an hour and a half of pushing. It seriously hurts.
By now the nurses have got my doctor in there who is trying to feel where the babies are at. My head is throbbing. It felt as though I was pushing so hard that my epidural was fading. I was drinking ice (I was desperate) and covered with wet washcloths. It was definitely a shining moment.
Things were not happy, and these babies weren't coming. Towards the end of the second hour of pushing every few seconds, they informed me that we would try a few more times and if there was no progress, we would need to prepare for an emergency c-section. I was determined to push these babies out. They were both head down and Fitz was coming out first. Apparently his head was in a weird position, as if he was looking up, so that he was coming out forehead first....apparently this caused some issues, and my doctor reached up and tried to correct it, however, Fitz wasn't budging. With his head in the position it was, he wouldn't fit under my pelvic bone properly.
SO. here we are. a little over two hours of pushing and absolutely no progress had been made. They re-administer some drugs, and wheel me into the operating room.
By this time I have the shakes really bad. I remember them moving me onto the operating table and they strap your arms straight out to your side on these little planks....well, I remember thinking, I don't care how hard they strap my arms down, they are going to flap right off this skinny board. To be honest, I can't really remember if they did or not, my whole body was shaking like crazy, and I was sure that this was going to interfere with them cutting me, basically, in half. Apparently, my shakes had nothing on the epidural drug and all was well.
Considering only one person can join you in the operating room, my mom stayed in the fancy vacation room and Ty was by my side in the operating room. He said he literally saw my insides, which is pretty cool... Well, to some people, like Ty, who has to dissect sick cows in order to send their insides to a lab for testing, it's cool. Anyways, I'm sure my insides were way cuter than a cow's......and we are still married, so he must have seen something he liked.....
ha this feels wrong...
I'll stop.
Anyways, Fitz makes his way out into the world at 12:05AM central time and the first thing said by the doctors is "Welp, it's definitely Ty's baby" haha. Fitz really did look exactly like a miniature version of Ty when he was only seconds old!
Fitz Eldon: 5lbs 15oz, 20 in
I hear the first cry, and only a minute later, I hear Fey. She followed Fitz out quickly and made her way out into the world at 12:06AM.
Fey Ila: 5lbs 1oz, 19 in
I am strapped to the table and all I can hear are the most perfect little cries. They immediately bring them over to Ty and I and I try to stop my head from shaking for long enough to see them. They are perfect and healthy. To be honest, I thought it would be different. I thought I would get to hold them and be with them immediately after birth, but they only let me look at them for a second before they wheeled them off to the NICU for testing. Those next moments were so hard as I had to lay there, hoping the babies were OK and waiting to be sewn back together. I had very limited voluntary movement of the majority of my body at this point, with the numbing drugs and the shaking. They tried lots of meds to help my nervous system calm down, but nothing worked and I ended up having to just count out loud and try to force my body to hold still for one second longer than the last attempt. Ty stayed with me till I was out of surgery and returned to my room. From there, I was alone for most of the night till I fell asleep, still shaking, because my mom and Ty were watching the babies in the NICU. They came to check on me a few times, but I was miserable, in pain, and shaking.... Apparently there were some issues with Fey's breathing, but it corrected itself very quickly. I woke at around 4:45AM that morning to a nurse telling me that the babies were in great condition and would be leaving the NICU in the next hour or so to bring them to my room. By this time, I was feeling much better, more calm, and ready to see my babies again, and hold them for the first time!
They ended up bring them into my room about 10 minutes later.
IT was amazing. Motherhood is amazing. I feel like there are so many stigmas to birthing a child. Which way is right. Which way is wrong. What makes you a good mom or not. I think all of this is bullshit. No matter your birth experience, having a child and doing your best to bring them into the world, into a happy and healthy environment is good enough. I love my story because the ending is perfect....well it was until I tried to take a nap....then. Reality hit. and it hits hard. :)
So I have no pictures of the delivery or anything of the sort, and for that I will say you're welcome, rather than I'm sorry. :)
Thanks for reading.
With my pregnancy and birth story posted, I can now get to the everyday life stuff....like, how Fitz tried to touch his toes and found something else instead..... :)